I am convinced that the lessons learned with LTC have less to do with the events and more to do with the process. Let me explain.
For those of you who are not familiar with this program, LTC stands for Leadership Training for Christ. It is designed for children in 3rd-12th grades to help them develop their talents for the Lord. They work on individual and team events such as song leading, chorus, drama, speech, scripture reading, signing for the deaf, art, etc. Generally, church-wide practices begin in January and then over Easter weekend, we gather with other congregations for a convention and the students showcase these talents and are awarded a gold, silver, bronze or honorable mention medal based on their adherance to a set of standards. It's not really a competition, but the awards are to motivate the students to do their best. It's difficult to explain the convention to someone who's never been. Because there are so many people going so many directions, the best description I've heard is that it is "organized chaos."
Ok, all that being said, let me continue with my thought. During my eight years of coaching LTC, I have come to realize that much more is learned than just from the events themselves. It's the process. It's the 4 hour practices every Sunday for three months. It's the 36+ hours spent together over Easter weekend. It's the deadlines and demands. It's the feeling like you want to pull your hair out and scream at times, but you don't. Usually.
Patience
For instance, when you get 3000 plus people that need to go up and down six elevators twelve times in a nine hour time period, you learn patience. Hopefully. When 30 people are all waiting and the elevator has room for three, you learn patience. When the elevator doors open up and it is already jam-packed, you learn patience.
Flexibility
When you're waiting for same said elevator and your event starts in ten minutes, then you learn to be flexible. Time for plan B. Take the stairs. (Now, getting into the flow of traffice in the stairwell is an art in itself, but that's another lesson.)
When the signing room is running way late and they move your entire group to another room, you learn to be flexible.
When you discover that your Bible Drama's two small Bibles for your skit are missing, you learn to be flexible. I mean, a piece of blue paper folded in half with the word "BIBLE" written in sharpie looks like a Bible, right? Sure it does!
Forbearance
Forbearance. I wasn't sure that was an actual word, but I looked it up. Yeah, it is. Basically it means putting up with each other. Tolerance. Giving each other a break. Not yelling at the person who bumped into you. Not correcting the monitor who shushed you when you weren't even the one talking.
Not verbally attacking the person who emails you at 11:00pm the night of the convention to ask you to re-send electronic files you submitted weeks ago.
Not killing the kid who breaks the rules. On purpose. Did we say no shorts? Did we say no swimming? Did we say don't go anywhere alone? Yes, yes we did. Yeah, I'd say we learn alot of forbearance at LTC.
No one is Perfect/ I can't do everything
When I take 30 seconds to take care of one child and then make a mad dash to my next child's event, only to get there seconds after they shut the doors, and miss the entire event, I realize that I cannot be a perfect parent. I cannot do everything.
Trying to make it to everyone's events is practically an impossibility. Sorry, Yoda, this is one case where I just have to try- not "do or do not." I try and do some.
Hmmmmm..... No one is perfect? Perhaps remembering that will help me in the forbearance department as well!
First things first
So, there's a yellow sheet of paper that you must submit to the room proctor before you perform. I was really grateful for the monitor who said, "It's just a piece of paper. We'll figure something out," when I wasn't sure that I had ours.
There is a certain time that you must be there in order to not give up your slot. Yes, I get it. There must be order.
However, what really matters? Loving God and loving people. We are there to do that. It's more important that I'm kind to my team than to remember my yellow piece of paper. It's more important that I know God than to memorize every word in the book of Matthew.
It's more important that I am patient and respectful than for me to be on time to my event. It's more important that I'm a good example than for me to make it to every event my child is in. These are lessons not easily learned. At least not for me.
Who's doing the learning?
Well, I was talking about this the other day and someone said, "Sounds like it's the parents that are learning these things."
Yes, that's it exactly. The leadership training that these kids learn has less to do with what I teach them about acting or singing for the Lord. It has everything to do with what they learn when they watch my behavior.
I may give my all to coach them the best way to sing their songs, but if I'm unkind and rude- THAT'S what I'm teaching them.
I may instruct them how to read the word of God in a clear and confident way, but if I'm quick to get angry at the kid whose mom drops him off late, THAT's what I'm teaching them.
How do I treat a child that frequently misses practice? Do I give them a lecture or do I smile and say, "I'm glad you're here!"?
How do I react when I've been waiting for an elevator for what seems like an hour (have I mentioned the elevators?) and then someone walks in front of me and gets the last spot?
How do I respond when I feel the judges results are unfair?
(Don't get me wrong. LTC is a wonderful experience, and for the most part, everyone who has a part in the planning and execution of it is a kind, dedicated Christian. That being said, remember, I've learned that no one is perfect. Judges, coordinators, parents, participants, me included.)
What is my demeanor when 50 people are all trying to eat lunch in one small room with 25 chairs? And it's hot. And I can't breathe.
How do I treat people when I'm going on little sleep, frantically trying to figure out where to be next, making sure we have all our props, supervising who knows how many kids?
That's when I take a deep breath and turn it all over to God. Some of this stuff just doesn't matter. Some of it does.
The leadership training that goes on is our children watching us respond in these situations. Do I respond with frustration and anger? Do I yell and threaten?
Or do I respond with love and a soft answer? Do I remain calm? Do I apologize when I am in the wrong?
Do I remember the big picture? Leadership Training for Christ. Yes, they give us a theme. We come up with all sorts of skits, songs, etc. that embody the theme, but the real challenge is: Can we display the theme in the way we behave?
So I turn the other cheek in my drama. But, do I turn the other cheek when my teammate snaps at me?
I go the extra mile in my puppet skit. But, do I go that extra mile when I'm asked to do something I've already done or don't want to do?
It's not about how I display the theme in a skit or poem or photo or song. It's how I display the theme in my life- my actions.
Yes, I'm convinced that when God is watching His children participate in LTC, it is not the medal count that he is looking for. It is how His children treat each other.